If you’re about to enter in a long distance relationship then you’re definitely worried and tensed about the new phase of the relationship. I’m in a same boat and it requires courage and a lot of trust to agree for a long distance relationship.
It breaks your heart because your partner will be away from you in some time and you need to understand how to cope up with it. To be very honest, it’s very hard to control your emotions because it makes you feel weak when your other half is planning to go abroad to start a new life. It hurts more in a long distance relationship if you’re the one who’s going to bid them off at the airport.
I understand where you are coming from because even I’m about to enter in a long distance relationship.
I ended up smoking and drinking a lot in order to reduce the pain inside my heart that keeps bothering me everyday after my girlfriend broke the news about her plans. It feels like somebody just stabbed you at the back. I’m sure you’re also damaged and depressed like me because you love your partner so much that the fact about staying away from them scares you a lot.
It may increase your anxiety and you may feel lonely already thinking about them going away from your life anytime soon.
You’re the best person if you landed up on this article because you are affected and hurt. You know it sucks to lose someone and you can’t give up on people easily and you expect the same from your partner.
But due to past experiences, we all need reassurance. Infact, I need confirmation from my partner about never leaving me alone in a long distance relationship a billion times because I care and love that person so much and it’s so hard to think about them going away from your life all of a sudden.
you’re very strong and optimistic if you agreed to continue the second phase of your relationship. It’s hard to be part of such a journey where you constantly feels like hugging and kissing your partner and make love to them at least once or twice in a month.
Long distance relationship will not have these perks. This scares you even more and you end up imagining your partner cheating on you.
It’s all in your head. Such assumptions can push your partner away from you and they may not share anything about their day once they are away from you because you may end up fighting about every thing if you won’t whole heartedly trust and believe your partner.
I totally get it that long distance relationship is hard. You and your partner may get a lot of cravings to be physically close but due to distance it can’t happen anymore.
What do you need to do in such case? You need to run away from distractions and invest your time in achieving your goals because your partner will do the same.
Due to their new phase in life, your partner will need a best friend. Do not bombard them with calls once they go to a new place. Your partner will be facing new challenges everyday already.
Make your partner feel like that you’re not just a lover but also a best friend with whom they can share each and everything. This will reduce their stress and it will bring your partner more close to you even though you are far away from each other.
Stop assuming negative stuff and believe what you agreed on. Do not forget to communicate. Fix a time to call them up everyday, watch movies with them on video call and talk about their new life and support them. I know you’re a bigger person to understand so many things about them when all you’re expecting is just loyalty.
Try not to get any negative thoughts when they are busy or not answering your Calls. This is the biggest reason why a fight would start and it may push your partner away from you if it’s start getting hectic.
Keep it nice and simple, it’s definitely hard but it’s not impossible. Long distance relationship helps you realise the real worth of spending time together.
Try not to express what you’re assuming all the time. Discuss the real facts and communicate politely.
If they want you to be part of their journey. It means they love you. They know how hard it’s for you to agree on long distance relationship. But your partner wants you to believe in them.
Stop worrying and be happy that you guys met. You barely meet people these days who try to hold on to each other. Long distance relationship is hard but it will be the best part of your life once everything falls into place.
Do not stop communicating and keep your egos aside. Make them feel like you’re their best friend and you’re always their for them no matter what.
You will get through this and it will be all be worth it.